Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Why Changing a DP is not enough!!!

Sitting here in the US, I can see how excited people are about the landmark judgement of allowing the LGBT community to enter into a civil union. Last night there were fireworks in the LGBT colors at a park nearby. The colors reminds me of the Facebook display pictures of people back in India that are flooding my timeline. As heartening as it is to see people back home celebrating this judgement, I also feel something amiss. An opportunity to look cool is never something we will let slip. And if it garners you likes on Facebook or getting retweeted on twitter, why not? After all US is the gold standard for human rights amongst other things.

In India, the contempt or disregard for homosexuals was given life by our society and how it portrays these individuals. Our most staple ‘source of information’, Bollywood or Indian Cinema, has had a long standing role to play in creating such an image. For long the movies have portrayed these individuals as effeminate, sexually promiscuous and invariably having a floppy wrist. We laugh our asses off, and bring those assumptions to our everyday lives. So we are okay to ridicule them, but we won’t witness their humane sides. And it just not only about the gay community, but about transgender too. They have been ostracized and ridiculed in equal measure. So to the less-informed-social-media-addict Indian, here is a poser. Do you even know what the T in LGBT stands for?

Transgender. And that is exactly where my problem is. So while we are celebrating a law in the US, do we even a proper word to address the transgenders back home? We call them ‘Chakkas’, all because their genitalia didn’t turn out in a way god intended. How many of you even know that the Indian Supreme Court, in April 2014 recognized the transgender people as a 'third gender' in law. Now where was the support or euphoria, when this landmark judgement was made? Did we go around showing solidarity to the Hijras? Did we change our DPs to reflect that? No we didn’t because, Hijras aren’t as good looking as Matt Bomer or Luke Evans. Because Bollywood celebrities dint tweet about it or newspapers didn’t carry a column on “what the western media thinks of hijra community”? Because Hijras don’t have an Icon. They don’t have anyone who could champion their cause. They are just a footnote in the LGBT community.

I also saw people deriding the Indian system for not having a similar judgement to that in the US. First of all, we don’t even accept Transgenders as part of our society yet, in spite of a law in place. What is the guarantee that the Gay community will be allowed a place under the sun if their civil union is allowed? So unless we change our mindset about each letter in LGBT, we simply don’t have the right to celebrate the colors. We may, but we shouldn’t. Let me tell you, some of US laws are archaic and draconian too. Not so hunky dory now, is it?

And it is just not the US that we are fascinated with. We are in general fascinated with what the West does. Because if you are aware of what is happening in the west and not know what is happening in your own, you are perceived as cool. Remember Je Suis Charlie? How many of you know that 2 journalists were burnt alive in the last month and went completely un-noticed. Ice bucket Challenge was another. We went gaga over Malala Yousafzai’s so-called crusade on girl’s education, where she involuntarily took a bullet. But we didn’t know about a man who championed the same cause for years, and didn’t reward him until the foreign media did or the Norwegian Nobel Committee. Kailash Satyarthi.

We try to mimic everything the west does, but when they comment on the decadence in our society, we are up in arms and attack their culture and upbringing. Stop following the mad herd and look at the big picture. Everyone deserves a place under the sun. Not just Gay and Lesbians.


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